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Backed by 50 years of research in neuroscience and child development...
How to Get Your Out-Of-The-Box Kid to Stay Calm and Do What You Ask
(Even if they are extremely defiant, aggressive, and have epic meltdowns 5X/day...)
Discover a simple 4-step framework you can use to go from:
Proven with 1,500 families with kids aged 2-17. This framework is built for the most challenging kids. Including those who are nonverbal, have anxiety, ODD, SPD, ASD, PTSD and any other labelā¦
...as well as kids who were kicked out of multiple schools for constant, aggressive outburstsā¦
What Experts Say...


āWhy wonāt my kid listen!?...ā
You tried using reward charts but your child wonāt follow their routines.
You get on your kidās level and use your ānice voiceā but they still scream āNO!ā anytime you ask them to do something.
You connect all day until the cows come home but your day is consumed by constant meltdowns⦠battles over electronics⦠sibling fighting⦠and utter chaos.
You feel like a ticking time bomb -- that you could ālose itā at any moment.


And if youāre like I was, you not only feel like a failure as a mom, youāre terrified for your kidās future.
You wonder, will they ever make friends? Will they end up in jail? Will they hate the world and themselves because theyāre so different from everyone else?
Well, I have great news.
First, youāre an AMAZING mom. Youāre doing so much that people donāt see or appreciate, but I do. You rock!
Second, youāre not alone. And there is hope.
Hi, Iām Dayna Abraham.
Iām a best-selling author of 2 parenting books and I spent 13 years as a National Board Certified teacher.
For the past 7 years, weāve helped moms go from barely surviving each day to THRIVING as a family.
Like Amanda, whose son had SPD as well as constant aggressive outbursts. He would hit her and his siblings and she couldnāt stop it no matter how much she yelled.
It got so bad she would lock herself in the pantry and cry, thinking her family would be better without her.

But now, sheās stopped yelling and violence. Amanda and her kids now get along so well they launched a new business with her making jewelry.ā

Or Jess, whose four-year-old went from having 50 incidents of aggressive behavior in 2 weeks at school to just 2 incidents over three months!
Her son even went from constantly starting fights to RESOLVING them.

Using our framework, youāll barely recognize your life.

Just imagineā¦


Hereās the secret:
Most programs try to CHANGE your child. They try to get your kid to conform⦠To fit in a pretty little box... to sit still and listen and do as theyāre told.
But...
...Your child isnāt broken!
Your job isnāt to change them. Itās simply to teach them.
Teach them how to understand themselves and handle their emotions.
Teach them how to solve problems and get along with others.
Teach them how to make good decisions for themselves (not just do things to avoid getting in trouble).
Teach them to channel their unique abilities in a positive way⦠what makes them DEFIANT can also make them a great leader. They can channel that to become a CEO one day.
What makes them messy is also what makes them CREATIVE. And they can channel that to design buildings or write award-winning novels.
And finally, teach them to be confident and happy with who they are instead of trying to be someone theyāre not.
Calm the Chaos isnāt about changing your kid. Itās about teaching them life skills most people never learn.
Weāll teach you HOW to teach your kids all these things. And youāll see results like youāve never seen from any other program...
7 Reasons Why
The Strategies You Tried Havenāt Worked
(Hint: itās not your fault or your childās fault)
So many books, podcasts, and programs are AMAZING.
But if you have an out-of-the-box kid, the material out there is incomplete.
They give you pieces of the puzzle, not the full thing.
Here are 7 reasons why the courses, books, Pinterest tools and zillion other things youāve tried havenāt workedā¦
...PLUS, what Calm the Chaos does differently to ensure you get life-changing results no matter what.
Other programs
Calm the Chaos 3.0
Give you tools and strategies and if they donāt work, they say āyou must be doing it wrongā, or āyour kid is brokenā
Teaches you how to use the strategies with your unique child and family so you get jaw-dropping results.
And if you donāt get results immediately, thatās okay! Our coaches and community will help you make tweaks until you find what works for you and your family.
Give you ONE piece of the puzzle (example: Just connect more!ā)
Shows you how all the pieces fit together -- how to connect, understand your child, and empower them so fights, meltdowns, and other challenging behaviors disappear
Tells you āall behavior is communicationā but donāt help you see WHAT your child is communicating
Helps you uncover the hidden reasons behind your childās behaviors so you can stop them before they start
Seek āblind obedienceā -- get your child to do what you ask like they are a little soldier
Gives your child the skills to problem-solve and think for themselves
Try to change your child and get them to fit into the same box as everyone else
Celebrate what makes your child unique and show you how to channel that so they become happy, successful adults
Tell you to ābe calmā and āsee your childās behavior in a positive lightā -- but they donāt teach you HOW
Teaches you how to stay calm and love your child even when they are at their worst -- youāll feel confident and build their confidence
Leave you alone to get results
You get the support of hundreds of moms, our coaches, and myself. Weāll guide you and CELEBRATE every win you have -- no matter how small.
7 Reasons Why
The Strategies You Tried Havenāt Worked
(Hint: itās not your fault or your childās fault)
So many books, podcasts, and programs are AMAZING.
But if you have an out-of-the-box kid, the material out there is incomplete.
They give you pieces of the puzzle, not the full thing.
Here are 7 reasons why the courses, books, Pinterest tools and zillion other things youāve tried havenāt workedā¦
...PLUS, what Calm the Chaos does differently to ensure you get life-changing results no matter what.
Other programs
Give you tools and strategies and if they donāt work, they say āyou must be doing it wrongā, or āyour kid is brokenā
Calm the Chaos 3.0
Teaches you how to use the strategies with your unique child and family so you get jaw-dropping results.
And if you donāt get results immediately, thatās okay! Our coaches and community will help you make tweaks until you find what works for you and your family.
Other programs
Give you ONE piece of the puzzle (example: Just connect more!ā)
Calm the Chaos 3.0
Shows you how all the pieces fit together -- how to connect, understand your child, and empower them so fights, meltdowns, and other challenging behaviors disappear
Other programs
Tells you āall behavior is communicationā but donāt help you see WHAT your child is communicating
Calm the Chaos 3.0
Helps you uncover the hidden reasons behind your childās behaviors so you can stop them before they start
Other programs
Seek āblind obedienceā -- get your child to do what you ask like they are a little soldier
Calm the Chaos 3.0
Gives your child the skills to problem-solve and think for themselves
Other programs
Try to change your child and get them to fit into the same box as everyone else
Calm the Chaos 3.0
Celebrate what makes your child unique and show you how to channel that so they become happy, successful adults
Other programs
Tell you to ābe calmā and āsee your childās behavior in a positive lightā -- but they donāt teach you HOW
Calm the Chaos 3.0
Teaches you how to stay calm and love your child even when they are at their worst -- youāll feel confident and build their confidence
Other programs
Leave you alone to get results
Calm the Chaos 3.0
You get the support of hundreds of moms, our coaches, and myself. Weāll guide you and CELEBRATE every win you have -- no matter how small.
See The Transformation Yourself...
Below are stories from three Calm the Chaos graduates.
Warning: these videos may make you cryā¦
āALMOST EXPELLED FOR AGGRESSIVE OUTBURSTSā
Jenniferās son had been suspended from kindergarten so many times he was on the verge of being EXPELLED... and itās not like it stopped at home. The defiant screaming fits and violent aggressive outbursts felt like they stretched across days.
Now, the defiance, aggression and meltdowns have almost gone away completely. Jennifer is no longer afraid of getting calls from school. And she and her son can play games, have dance parties in the living room, and snuggle together.
āEVERYTHING WAS A ONE BIG ARGUMENT...ā
Tamara and her daughter Hannah fought over everything. Their biggest struggle was any kind of routine, whether it be routines for schoolwork, morning routines, or bedtime routines. Tamara felt like she spent all day yelling.
Tamara discovered what was behind the arguments and Hannaās resistance. Now, they have routines for mornings, homework, and nighttime. Theyāve gone from arguing all day to almost never. Their relationship is stronger and Tamara has more time for herself.
"DOCTORS SAID HER SON WOULD NEVER COMMUNICATEā¦"
Meet Kaylene, an autistic mom of 8. Doctors told her that her autistic son would never communicate, manage his emotions, or live on his own.
On top of that, he had extremely aggressive meltdowns. He even tried to head-butt his baby sister. Kaylene realized she couldnāt keep her family safe...
But now heās able to communicate. The meltdowns and aggressive behaviors went from daily to almost never.
If you want similar results, youāll LOVE Calm the Chaos 3.0...
Introducing Calm the Chaos 3.0!
Calm the Chaos is a one-stop-shop with everything you need to create the family life youāve always wanted.
We show you how to take all the AMAZING strategies youāve learned from other books and courses and how they fit together so you finally get results.

Plus, we have a few strategies nobody else teaches: like how to uncover the true cause of your childās behavior using the Behavioral Spiral. And how to stay calm and confident -- even when your child is having a meltdown -- using thought monsters.
Everything in here is backed by the latest research in neuroscience and child development. There are over 34 studies that validate each piece of the program.
Hereās a peek at what youāll discover:
Module 1:
How to save time, energy, and sanity with a SPARC plan
Fill your tank and go from exhausted and overwhelmed to calm and confident.
Youāll discover hidden āenergy drainsā that are unknowingly sucking the life out of you -- and how to replace them with āenergy boostersā so you feel refreshed and invigorated. (These are simple actions that have nothing to do with coffee or a trip to the spa.)

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Youāll also learn a 5-minute morning routine to clear your head and charge up your battery -- and how to use it even if you donāt have 30 seconds to yourself.
Module 2:
Your āIn the momentā plan
This is exactly what to say and do IN THE MOMENT when thereās a fight, meltdown, or your child refuses to listen.
Youāll learn how to stay calm and quickly solve any challenging behavior using the YOU-CUE framework. And youāll get proven scripts for what to say, do, and give to your child so the storm passes quickly.

Module 3:
Your Ahead-of-the-moment plan
Youāll discover how to find the āhidden triggersā causing your childās meltdowns, defiance, backtalk, and more using the Behavioral Spiral.
Then, youāll learn how to use the YOU-CUE framework to create āout-of-the-boxā plans your child is EXCITED to use. So you can stop the arguments, meltdowns, tantrums, power struggles, sibling fighting, aggression and other challenging behaviors before they even start!
And youāll see how to create Family Huddles so your child comes to you when they have a problem⦠and your kids learn to solve problems rather than screaming, hitting, or shutting down anytime theyāre upset.

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Module 4:
Your Family Success Plan
Your Family Success Plan gets your family to ENJOY being together again. Youāll see everyoneās triggers, preferences, likes, dislikes and more laid out so everyone knows how to communicate without accidentally setting someone off.
Youāll also discover our Magic Routine System to set up smooth and successful routines for mornings, bedtimes, mealtimes, chores, virtual learning and anything else.

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And youāll get your out-of-the-box discipline plan -- youāll know exactly what to say and do to discipline your child without shaming them, hurting your relationship, or letting them walk all over you.
Module 5:
Your Advocacy Plan
Hereās where you learn to become a fierce advocate for your child. And youāll teach them how to be a fierce advocate for themselves. So they can stand up for themselves in a way that people will listen.
Youāll discover how to get friends, family, and teachers to understand whatās going on with your child and how to handle them.
And youāll give your child the skills to find āout-of-the-boxā solutions to any challenges they face.

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Module 6:
Conquer and Thrive
Time and again moms who go through our program ask, āwhat now?!ā The fights, meltdowns, and drama that plagued their life for YEARS have vanished. And theyāre not sure what to do with their time.
Here, youāll rediscover who you are and what lights you up in addition to being an awesome mom.
And youāll create a 90-Day plan to create the life you want for yourself -- whether it involves going back to school, starting a business, taking up yoga or whatever else.

Like Kylie, who went from crying in the mornings because she couldnāt get her 8 kids out the door⦠to finding the time to start a new business helping parents teach yoga to kids!
How The Program Works

The Calm the Chaos 90-Day Transformation program consists of over 8 hours of training. All broken down into 15 minute chunks.
We are shooting these trainings LIVE.
Weāre doing this because --thanks to covid -- nobody knows what tomorrow will bring. We have a proven framework that works. But we wanted to keep things flexible so we can help you with your biggest challenges right now.
The lessons are all available in video, audio, and downloadable transcripts. So no matter how you like to learn, we've got you covered.
You can even access the full program on your phone.
And youāll have access to the program for life. So you can come back anytime you need a refresher.
Finally, all the lessons come with a simple āNext Actionā exercise. So you always know what to do to get fast results.

Weāll Take You By The Hand With 90 Days of Coaching

When you join, you get access to weekly live coaching calls
Youāll have one coaching call per week for 90 days. There, you can ask questions, go deeper into your lessons, and see how other moms are using the framework to get a handle on the same challenges you face.
I'm going to be with you every single step of the way.

Access A Community of Moms Who Have Your Back
When you join Calm the Chaos, you will get instant, lifetime access to the Calm the Chaos Community.
If you want help and supportā¦
...If you need a shoulder to cry on or someone to vent toā¦
...Or if you simply want to CELEBRATE every little win you have from now until foreverā¦
...then youāll love this community!

The moms here know what youāre going through and have your back.
And me and my coaches will be in there every day during the 90-Day Transformation program to answer your questions and give you extra support.
We will still stay active after the 90 days. But weāre going to be āall-hands-on-deckā helping you those first three months.

Our online community is also where you get access to our popular ā10 in 10 seriesā.
These are new videos I create almost every day. In these videos, I address the biggest challenges our Calm the Chaos students face and how to overcome them quickly.

Plus āFinish Strongā Coaching So You Donāt Get Left Behind
Finally, you may be afraid this will be yet another program you never use.
To prevent that, weāve added āFinish Strong Coaching.ā
This includes videos you can ābinge-watchā that help you learn and apply the full framework in an afternoon!
Our students love this. Because itās a chance to quickly get caught up if theyāve fallen behind.
Frequently Asked Questions
We work with parents, teachers, and therapists dealing with children of all ages. And various behaviors such as backtalk, sibling rivalry, lying and crying. As well as more dangerous and worrisome behaviors like physical aggression and outright defiance.
Weāve seen members from all over the world use the framework with neurotypical and neurodiverse children.
Because remember⦠Calm the Chaos is designed to work WITH your unique family.
So if you are a stay-at-home mom, a dad, a single parent, a working mom, a teacher, or a professional and you want to create a more empowered relationship with your child, students, or clients then Calm the Chaos is for you.
Well first off, youāre actually saving a ton of time. Because you wonāt need to scour the internet for help anymore, or get sucked into daily battles.
I mean, think about how much time you spend in arguments, meltdowns, or repeating yourself. What does that add up to? A half hour a day? Two hours? More?
With this framework, those fights and struggles that suck up your time will soon disappear. Which can free up a ton of time.
As far as going through the program, that varies for everyone.
In general, our members spend 10-20 minutes a day on this. Or 1 to 2 hours a week.
As far as implementation, all it takes is five minutes here and there. Remember we give you simple action steps with each lesson. So it makes this super easy.
And really, the action steps are things most parents enjoy. I mean, who doesnāt want to feel more love and connection with their child? Thatās what this whole framework is based around.
This program isnāt for someone who is looking for an instant fix.
You canāt magically create a thriving relationship with your child in thirty seconds.
Sure, some kids are easier than others to parent. But the truth is, creating a relationship based on love, empathy, and empowerment is going to take commitment.
You have to be intentional about it. And continue to foster your relationship to make it last for years to come.
Calm the Chaos is for people committed to making changes. They realize that itās not about magically transforming overnight.
Itās about progress, not perfection. About making each day better than the one before.
Also, if you are the type of parent who wants to rule with an iron fist, this is not for you.
Calm the Chaos is about involving your kids and empowering them to be the superkids they already are.
Well, letās see:
- Youāll see me on our weekly coaching calls, where you can ask me whatever questions youād likeā¦
- I post free bonus lessons almost every day in the members-only Facebook groupā¦
- I send you weekly accountability emails to help you stay on track...
- And my team and I are in the private Facebook group every day answering questions, giving advice, and celebrating your wins.
Honestly, you might get a little sick of me š
Calm the Chaos is basically my 4th baby. So Iām in there every day giving everyone as much care and love as I can.
Youāll likely see results within the first week or two!
At first, youāll see results in yourself. Your perspective will change. Your confidence will grow. Youāll be able to handle challenging behaviors with patience -- without feeling like you might ālose it.ā
As for your kids behavior, everyoneās journey is different. Some moms go from constant arguments and meltdowns to laughter and cuddles within the first few weeks. Others take the full 90 days just to get ONE problem under control (like time limits for electronics).
Just know that however fast you progress is okay. Weāll be here for you and so will the rest of the community -- even after the 90 days is up. And youāll have the course material for life so you can always come back anytime you need help.
What Graduates Say About
Calm the Chaos
"The school called, and for the first time, it was good news..."

āIām able to work through meltdowns without losing itā¦ā

āIām calmer and less triggeredā¦ā

āMy kids are getting along so well!"

āGiven me more than the therapist my son has been seeingā

āFinished our first full week of school and Iām really happyā¦ā


"Therapist says sheās a more skillful parent"

"Made it through distance learning without a fight"

Works for 22-month-old son

āI have a framework that works for all my kidsā

āNo arguments and the meltdowns have reduced...ā

Her boy used to get frustrated so fast⦠now he comes and talks to her instead


āMy kid switched gears and cleaned the whole basement for me as a surpriseā

āSon stopped himself twice from spiraling into full blown meltdownā¦ā

āWe havenāt laughed and enjoyed being together like this in so longā

āWent to the childrenās museum⦠no meltdowns like in the pastā

āWent to the childrenās museum⦠no meltdowns like in the pastā

āHe stopped screaming and used his wordsā
