How to Get Your Out-Of-The-Box Kid to Stay Calm, Self-Regulate, and Do What You Ask

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Backed by 50 years of research in neuroscience and child development...

How to Get Your Out-Of-The-Box Kid to Stay Calm and Do What You Ask

(Even if they are extremely defiant, aggressive, and have epic meltdowns 5X/day...)

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Discover a simple 4-step framework you can use to go from:

Fighting 24/7 with your kids to having no arguments for months (you’ll forget the last time you yelled)

Epic meltdowns 5X/day to no meltdowns for months

Dreading each day to excited about the future -- because your child has the skills to stay calm, self-regulate, and grow up to be a happy, successful adult others love to be around

Proven with 1,500 families with kids aged 2-17. This framework is built for the most challenging kids. Including those who are nonverbal, have anxiety, ODD, SPD, ASD, PTSD and any other label…

...as well as kids who were kicked out of multiple schools for constant, aggressive outbursts…

What Experts Say...

“Why won’t my kid listen!?...”

You tried using reward charts but your child won’t follow their routines.

You get on your kid’s level and use your “nice voice” but they still scream “NO!” anytime you ask them to do something.

You connect all day until the cows come home but your day is consumed by constant meltdowns… battles over electronics… sibling fighting… and utter chaos.

You feel like a ticking time bomb -- that you could “lose it” at any moment.

And if you’re like I was, you not only feel like a failure as a mom, you’re terrified for your kid’s future.

You wonder, will they ever make friends? Will they end up in jail? Will they hate the world and themselves because they’re so different from everyone else?

Well, I have great news.

First, you’re an AMAZING mom. You’re doing so much that people don’t see or appreciate, but I do. You rock!

Second, you’re not alone. And there is hope.

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Hi, I’m Dayna Abraham.

I’m a best-selling author of 2 parenting books and I spent 13 years as a National Board Certified teacher.

For the past 7 years, we’ve helped moms go from barely surviving each day to THRIVING as a family.

Like Amanda, whose son had SPD as well as constant aggressive outbursts. He would hit her and his siblings and she couldn’t stop it no matter how much she yelled.

It got so bad she would lock herself in the pantry and cry, thinking her family would be better without her.

But now, she’s stopped yelling and violence. Amanda and her kids now get along so well they launched a new business with her making jewelry.”

Or Jess, whose four-year-old went from having 50 incidents of aggressive behavior in 2 weeks at school to just 2 incidents over three months!

Her son even went from constantly starting fights to RESOLVING them.

Using our framework, you’ll barely recognize your life.

Just imagine…

The fights, meltdowns, backtalk, and other issues go from happening 5X a day to once or twice a month. And when they do happen, you know exactly what to do (Parents who once judged you in those situations and say, “Wow! I can’t believe how well you handled that!)

Your kids follow routines for morning, bedtime and virtual learning with no prompting (You even walk downstairs to find they cleaned the kitchen as a gift for you)

Your kids solve problems on their own -- no more hearing “MOOOOMM!!!!” anytime you turn your back. Instead, you see kids play together, compliment each other, and solve problems on their own.

Here’s the secret:

Most programs try to CHANGE your child. They try to get your kid to conform… To fit in a pretty little box... to sit still and listen and do as they’re told.

But...

...Your child isn’t broken!

Your job isn’t to change them. It’s simply to teach them.

Teach them how to understand themselves and handle their emotions.

Teach them how to solve problems and get along with others.

Teach them how to make good decisions for themselves (not just do things to avoid getting in trouble).

Teach them to channel their unique abilities in a positive way… what makes them DEFIANT can also make them a great leader. They can channel that to become a CEO one day.

What makes them messy is also what makes them CREATIVE. And they can channel that to design buildings or write award-winning novels.

And finally, teach them to be confident and happy with who they are instead of trying to be someone they’re not.

Calm the Chaos isn’t about changing your kid. It’s about teaching them life skills most people never learn.

We’ll teach you HOW to teach your kids all these things. And you’ll see results like you’ve never seen from any other program...

7 Reasons Why
The Strategies You Tried Haven’t Worked

(Hint: it’s not your fault or your child’s fault)

So many books, podcasts, and programs are AMAZING.

But if you have an out-of-the-box kid, the material out there is incomplete.

They give you pieces of the puzzle, not the full thing.

Here are 7 reasons why the courses, books, Pinterest tools and zillion other things you’ve tried haven’t worked…

...PLUS, what Calm the Chaos does differently to ensure you get life-changing results no matter what.

Other programs

Calm the Chaos 3.0

Give you tools and strategies and if they don’t work, they say “you must be doing it wrong”, or “your kid is broken”

Teaches you how to use the strategies with your unique child and family so you get jaw-dropping results.

And if you don’t get results immediately, that’s okay! Our coaches and community will help you make tweaks until you find what works for you and your family.

Give you ONE piece of the puzzle (example: Just connect more!”)

Shows you how all the pieces fit together -- how to connect, understand your child, and empower them so fights, meltdowns, and other challenging behaviors disappear

Tells you “all behavior is communication” but don’t help you see WHAT your child is communicating

Helps you uncover the hidden reasons behind your child’s behaviors so you can stop them before they start

Seek “blind obedience” -- get your child to do what you ask like they are a little soldier

Gives your child the skills to problem-solve and think for themselves

Try to change your child and get them to fit into the same box as everyone else

Celebrate what makes your child unique and show you how to channel that so they become happy, successful adults

Tell you to “be calm” and “see your child’s behavior in a positive light” -- but they don’t teach you HOW

Teaches you how to stay calm and love your child even when they are at their worst -- you’ll feel confident and build their confidence

Leave you alone to get results

You get the support of hundreds of moms, our coaches, and myself. We’ll guide you and CELEBRATE every win you have -- no matter how small.

7 Reasons Why
The Strategies You Tried Haven’t Worked

(Hint: it’s not your fault or your child’s fault)

So many books, podcasts, and programs are AMAZING.

But if you have an out-of-the-box kid, the material out there is incomplete.

They give you pieces of the puzzle, not the full thing.

Here are 7 reasons why the courses, books, Pinterest tools and zillion other things you’ve tried haven’t worked…

...PLUS, what Calm the Chaos does differently to ensure you get life-changing results no matter what.

Other programs

Give you tools and strategies and if they don’t work, they say “you must be doing it wrong”, or “your kid is broken”

Calm the Chaos 3.0

Teaches you how to use the strategies with your unique child and family so you get jaw-dropping results.

Jennifer’s son had been suspended from kindergarten so many times he was on the verge of being EXPELLED... and it’s not like it stopped at home. The defiant screaming fits and violent aggressive outbursts felt like they stretched across days.

Now, the defiance, aggression and meltdowns have almost gone away completely. Jennifer is no longer afraid of getting calls from school. And she and her son can play games, have dance parties in the living room, and snuggle together.

“EVERYTHING WAS A ONE BIG ARGUMENT...”

Tamara and her daughter Hannah fought over everything. Their biggest struggle was any kind of routine, whether it be routines for schoolwork, morning routines, or bedtime routines. Tamara felt like she spent all day yelling.

Tamara discovered what was behind the arguments and Hanna’s resistance. Now, they have routines for mornings, homework, and nighttime. They’ve gone from arguing all day to almost never. Their relationship is stronger and Tamara has more time for herself.

"DOCTORS SAID HER SON WOULD NEVER COMMUNICATE…"

Meet Kaylene, an autistic mom of 8. Doctors told her that her autistic son would never communicate, manage his emotions, or live on his own.

On top of that, he had extremely aggressive meltdowns. He even tried to head-butt his baby sister. Kaylene realized she couldn’t keep her family safe...

But now he’s able to communicate. The meltdowns and aggressive behaviors went from daily to almost never.

If you want similar results, you’ll LOVE Calm the Chaos 3.0...

Introducing Calm the Chaos 3.0!

Calm the Chaos is a one-stop-shop with everything you need to create the family life you’ve always wanted.

We show you how to take all the AMAZING strategies you’ve learned from other books and courses and how they fit together so you finally get results.

Plus, we have a few strategies nobody else teaches: like how to uncover the true cause of your child’s behavior using the Behavioral Spiral. And how to stay calm and confident -- even when your child is having a meltdown -- using thought monsters.

Everything in here is backed by the latest research in neuroscience and child development. There are over 34 studies that validate each piece of the program.

Here’s a peek at what you’ll discover:

Module 1:

How to save time, energy, and sanity with a SPARC plan

Fill your tank and go from exhausted and overwhelmed to calm and confident.

You’ll discover hidden “energy drains” that are unknowingly sucking the life out of you -- and how to replace them with “energy boosters” so you feel refreshed and invigorated. (These are simple actions that have nothing to do with coffee or a trip to the spa.)

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You’ll also learn a 5-minute morning routine to clear your head and charge up your battery -- and how to use it even if you don’t have 30 seconds to yourself.

Module 2:

Your “In the moment” plan

This is exactly what to say and do IN THE MOMENT when there’s a fight, meltdown, or your child refuses to listen.

You’ll learn how to stay calm and quickly solve any challenging behavior using the YOU-CUE framework. And you’ll get proven scripts for what to say, do, and give to your child so the storm passes quickly.

Module 3:

Your Ahead-of-the-moment plan

You’ll discover how to find the “hidden triggers” causing your child’s meltdowns, defiance, backtalk, and more using the Behavioral Spiral.

Then, you’ll learn how to use the YOU-CUE framework to create “out-of-the-box” plans your child is EXCITED to use. So you can stop the arguments, meltdowns, tantrums, power struggles, sibling fighting, aggression and other challenging behaviors before they even start!

And you’ll see how to create Family Huddles so your child comes to you when they have a problem… and your kids learn to solve problems rather than screaming, hitting, or shutting down anytime they’re upset.

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Module 4:

Your Family Success Plan

Your Family Success Plan gets your family to ENJOY being together again. You’ll see everyone’s triggers, preferences, likes, dislikes and more laid out so everyone knows how to communicate without accidentally setting someone off.

You’ll also discover our Magic Routine System to set up smooth and successful routines for mornings, bedtimes, mealtimes, chores, virtual learning and anything else.

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And you’ll get your out-of-the-box discipline plan -- you’ll know exactly what to say and do to discipline your child without shaming them, hurting your relationship, or letting them walk all over you.

Module 5:

Your Advocacy Plan

Here’s where you learn to become a fierce advocate for your child. And you’ll teach them how to be a fierce advocate for themselves. So they can stand up for themselves in a way that people will listen.

You’ll discover how to get friends, family, and teachers to understand what’s going on with your child and how to handle them.

And you’ll give your child the skills to find “out-of-the-box” solutions to any challenges they face.

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Module 6:

Conquer and Thrive

Time and again moms who go through our program ask, “what now?!” The fights, meltdowns, and drama that plagued their life for YEARS have vanished. And they’re not sure what to do with their time.

Here, you’ll rediscover who you are and what lights you up in addition to being an awesome mom.

And you’ll create a 90-Day plan to create the life you want for yourself -- whether it involves going back to school, starting a business, taking up yoga or whatever else.

Like Kylie, who went from crying in the mornings because she couldn’t get her 8 kids out the door… to finding the time to start a new business helping parents teach yoga to kids!

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How The Program Works

The Calm the Chaos 90-Day Transformation program consists of over 8 hours of training. All broken down into 15 minute chunks.

We are shooting these trainings LIVE.

We’re doing this because --thanks to covid -- nobody knows what tomorrow will bring. We have a proven framework that works. But we wanted to keep things flexible so we can help you with your biggest challenges right now.

The lessons are all available in video, audio, and downloadable transcripts. So no matter how you like to learn, we've got you covered.

You can even access the full program on your phone.

And you’ll have access to the program for life. So you can come back anytime you need a refresher.

Finally, all the lessons come with a simple “Next Action” exercise. So you always know what to do to get fast results.

We’ll Take You By The Hand With 90 Days of Coaching

When you join, you get access to weekly live coaching calls

You’ll have one coaching call per week for 90 days. There, you can ask questions, go deeper into your lessons, and see how other moms are using the framework to get a handle on the same challenges you face.

I'm going to be with you every single step of the way.

Access A Community of Moms Who Have Your Back

When you join Calm the Chaos, you will get instant, lifetime access to the Calm the Chaos Community.

If you want help and support…

...If you need a shoulder to cry on or someone to vent to…

...Or if you simply want to CELEBRATE every little win you have from now until forever…

...then you’ll love this community!

The moms here know what you’re going through and have your back.

And me and my coaches will be in there every day during the 90-Day Transformation program to answer your questions and give you extra support.

We will still stay active after the 90 days. But we’re going to be “all-hands-on-deck” helping you those first three months.

Our online community is also where you get access to our popular “10 in 10 series”.

These are new videos I create almost every day. In these videos, I address the biggest challenges our Calm the Chaos students face and how to overcome them quickly.

Plus “Finish Strong” Coaching So You Don’t Get Left Behind

Finally, you may be afraid this will be yet another program you never use.

To prevent that, we’ve added “Finish Strong Coaching.”

This includes videos you can “binge-watch” that help you learn and apply the full framework in an afternoon!

Our students love this. Because it’s a chance to quickly get caught up if they’ve fallen behind.

Frequently Asked Questions

Who Is Calm the Chaos For?

We work with parents, teachers, and therapists dealing with children of all ages. And various behaviors such as backtalk, sibling rivalry, lying and crying. As well as more dangerous and worrisome behaviors like physical aggression and outright defiance.

We’ve seen members from all over the world use the framework with neurotypical and neurodiverse children.

Because remember… Calm the Chaos is designed to work WITH your unique family.

So if you are a stay-at-home mom, a dad, a single parent, a working mom, a teacher, or a professional and you want to create a more empowered relationship with your child, students, or clients then Calm the Chaos is for you.

How much time will this take?

Well first off, you’re actually saving a ton of time. Because you won’t need to scour the internet for help anymore, or get sucked into daily battles.

I mean, think about how much time you spend in arguments, meltdowns, or repeating yourself. What does that add up to? A half hour a day? Two hours? More?

With this framework, those fights and struggles that suck up your time will soon disappear. Which can free up a ton of time.

As far as going through the program, that varies for everyone.

In general, our members spend 10-20 minutes a day on this. Or 1 to 2 hours a week.

As far as implementation, all it takes is five minutes here and there. Remember we give you simple action steps with each lesson. So it makes this super easy.

And really, the action steps are things most parents enjoy. I mean, who doesn’t want to feel more love and connection with their child? That’s what this whole framework is based around.

Who Is Calm the Chaos Not For?

This program isn’t for someone who is looking for an instant fix.

You can’t magically create a thriving relationship with your child in thirty seconds.

Sure, some kids are easier than others to parent. But the truth is, creating a relationship based on love, empathy, and empowerment is going to take commitment.

You have to be intentional about it. And continue to foster your relationship to make it last for years to come.

Calm the Chaos is for people committed to making changes. They realize that it’s not about magically transforming overnight.

It’s about progress, not perfection. About making each day better than the one before.

Also, if you are the type of parent who wants to rule with an iron fist, this is not for you.

Calm the Chaos is about involving your kids and empowering them to be the superkids they already are.

How involved are you in the course, Dayna?

Well, let’s see:

You’ll see me on our weekly coaching calls, where you can ask me whatever questions you’d like…
I post free bonus lessons almost every day in the members-only Facebook group…
I send you weekly accountability emails to help you stay on track...
And my team and I are in the private Facebook group every day answering questions, giving advice, and celebrating your wins.

Honestly, you might get a little sick of me 🙂
Calm the Chaos is basically my 4th baby. So I’m in there every day giving everyone as much care and love as I can.

When will I see results?

You’ll likely see results within the first week or two!

At first, you’ll see results in yourself. Your perspective will change. Your confidence will grow. You’ll be able to handle challenging behaviors with patience -- without feeling like you might “lose it.”

As for your kids behavior, everyone’s journey is different. Some moms go from constant arguments and meltdowns to laughter and cuddles within the first few weeks. Others take the full 90 days just to get ONE problem under control (like time limits for electronics).

Just know that however fast you progress is okay. We’ll be here for you and so will the rest of the community -- even after the 90 days is up. And you’ll have the course material for life so you can always come back anytime you need help.