Eliminate Any Challenging Behavior And Build A Family That Enjoys Being Together
Proven over 9 years with tens of thousands of families. This works for kids ages 2-17, including those with ODD, SPD, ADHD, anxiety, ASD, nonverbal, aggressive outbursts and any other diagnosable gift out there.
With this proven battle-tested framework ... Get the plans, scripts, roadmap and support to go from:
Epic meltdowns 5X/day to no meltdowns for weeks at a time
Fighting with your kids 24/7 because they REFUSE to listen… to no arguments or yelling for months
Barely surviving to THRIVING with a family that works (with kids who have the skills to self-regulate, solve problems, get along with others)
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“Life is much calmer and happier…my son has started to self-regulate…”
Shanda, CTC Graduate
Why None of the books, courses, or therapy you’ve tried has worked…
Hi, I’m Dayna Abraham, bestselling author of 2 parenting books and founder of Calm the Chaos.
I tried a bazillion programs, books, and therapies for my son.
Nothing worked. He had epic meltdowns 5 times a day that lasted hours, and was kicked out of multiple schools.
Every time, the experts tell me the same thing:
“You’re just not doing it right”
“Your son is just broken”
If you’ve experienced this, know this:
Your child is not broken. And you are doing an amazing job.
The problem is, most of the advice out there is about getting your child to fit a certain mold.
But I’ve discovered a far more effective approach is to have a framework that adapts to YOU and your unique child.
A simple framework that helps you take everything you’ve learned about parenting and your child and boil it down into simple, easy-to-follow steps so you can finally get results.
More than structure, discipline, or even consistency, your child needs to be seen, heard, understood and empowered.
It took my son from epic meltdowns 5X a day to none for months at a time.
It’s proven over 9 years with any challenging behavior under the sun. And it works for even the most challenging kids.
It can help you eliminate meltdowns, tantrums, outbursts, constant defiance, sibling fighting, refusal to put away electronics or go to bed… and so much more.
This framework makes any other challenging behaviors DISAPPEAR.
Not through bribes, punishments, or letting your child walk all over you.
But by giving your child the skills to self-regulate, solve problems, and get along with others.
So it actually brings your family closer together -- rather than building anger and resentment which can happen with “Do as I say!” style of parenting.
Here’s a look at that framework:
How to Eliminate Any Challenging Behaviors Using the YOU-CUE
There are four pieces to this framework:
YOU
Your ability to stay calm when things get crazy. We help you do that with a Stop, Breathe, Anchor Plan, so you don’t resort to yelling (even when you’re tired.)
CONNECT
This isn’t about special 1:1 time. Your body language, voice tone, and facial expressions can build or destroy connections throughout the day.
We’ll show you how to deepen your connection so your child is willing to listen and work with you instead of ignoring everything you say and fighting you tooth and nail.
UNDERSTAND
You may have heard “all behavior is communication.” We show you how to identify exactly what your child is communicating using the Behavior Funnel and Behavior Spiral.
Once you know the root cause of your child’s behavior, you’ll know exactly how to help them calm down fast and even stop those challenging behaviors from happening.
EMPOWER
Go beyond giving a false choice of “Do you want to brush with the red or green tooth brush?” And instead, create plans that you and your child are excited about.
So they know how to handle their big emotions and frustrations without meltdowns, hitting, name-calling, or other challenging behaviors.
You no doubt do pieces of this already.
But if you’re struggling with challenging behavior, it’s because one or more of those pieces is just a tiny bit off.
We’ll show you how to get all these pieces working together so you can:
Eliminate ANY challenging behavior -- no more meltdowns, tantrums, outbursts, constant refusal, hitting, sibling fighting, refusal to put away electronics, etc.
Help your child build their confidence to be themselves -- and develop the skills to get along with others
Build a family that works together, empowers each other, and ENJOYS being together.
Just imagine:
Getting a call from school and it’s actually GOOD NEWS -- your child is getting along with others and thriving.
Leaving your family for a weekend and coming back to find your kids had a great time without you (and the house wasn’t destroyed!)
Fun game nights, nightly dance parties in the kitchen, and movie nights filled with giggles and laughter (and nothing being thrown against the wall in anger!)
We’ll take you by the hand and help you use the YOU-CUE to go from barely surviving to thriving with a family inside NextStep.
Who is Calm The Chaos For?
We work with parents, teachers, and therapists dealing with children of all ages. And various behaviors such as backtalk, sibling rivalry, lying and crying. As well as more dangerous and worrisome behaviors like physical aggression and outright defiance.
We’ve seen members from all over the world use the framework with neurotypical and neurodiverse children.
Because remember… Calm the Chaos is designed to work WITH your unique family design and needs in mind.
So if you are a stay-at-home mom, a dad, a single parent, a working mom, a teacher, or a professional and you want to create a more empowered relationship with your child, students, or clients then Calm the Chaos is for you.
Who is Calm The Chaos NOT For?
This program isn’t for someone who is looking for an instant fix.
You can’t magically create a thriving relationship with your child in thirty seconds.
Sure, some kids are easier than others to parent. But the truth is, creating a relationship based on love, empathy, and empowerment is going to take commitment.
You have to be intentional about it. And continue to foster your relationship to make it last for years to come.
Calm the Chaos is for people committed to making changes. They realize that it’s not about magically transforming overnight.
It’s about progress, not perfection. About making each day better than the one before.
Also, if you are the type of parent who wants to rule with an iron fist, this is not for you.
Calm the Chaos is about involving your kids and empowering them to be the superkids they already are.
Now, you might be wondering..
Get TWO Life-Changing Programs
for less than the price of one
We have a special 2-for-1 deal for you.
First, you get Calm the Chaos Transformational Course.
This shows you how to use the YOU-CUE to go from barely surviving to thriving as a family.
This is where you learn step-by-step how to eliminate any challenging behavior while bringing your family closer together.
Calm the Chaos Transformational Course ($999 value)
Video course you can go through at your own pace.
You get bite-sized 10-minute videos to help you eliminate ANY challenging behavior while bringing your family closer together.
This includes:
Your “Ride the Storm” plan to get you and your family through aggressive meltdowns and dangerous behaviors safely
Your “5-Minute Energy Plan to get more time and energy -- even if you can’t get 2 seconds to yourself
Your In-The-Moment Plan to stay calm and quickly diffuse any challenging behaviors
Your Ahead-of-The-Moment Plans to stop challenging behavior before they start
Family Success Plan to build morning, bedtime, and daily routines your child actually wants to follow.
Your Out-of-the-Box Discipline Plan to discipline your child without shaming them, using fear, or letting them walk all over you
Your Advocacy Plan to advocate for your children and help them advocate for themselves
Get Your Spouse Onboard -- proven steps to get even the most stubborn spouse to go along with this new way of parenting
You can go through at your own pace.
You can also listen to the audio or read the downloadable transcripts.
And you can access the entire program on your phone.
So if you want to tear through a lesson while cleaning a few dishes, you can.
Second, you get access to our NextStep membership program.
This is where you get the coaching, accountability, and community support to apply what you learn and get results.
NextStep Coaching Membership ($1,164 value)
Ongoing coaching, accountability, and community support.
You get personalized help to get our framework and plans to work with your unique child and situation.
This includes:
Private Coaching On-Demand -- Submit your questions any time and our coaches will respond with a private video
Weekly Group Coaching Calls -- ask questions, get guidance, and work with our coaches to create plans
Your Private Accountability Group -- a small group of other moms to cheer you on and keep you on track
Monthly Implementation Challenges -- This makes it fun and easy to apply what you learn and get results fast
Keep Moving Forward -- Monthly mini-trainings to help you build confidence, crush self-doubt, and keep moving forward
The NextStep Community -- They eat, sleep and breathe the YOU-CUE. And they’ll support you in using the framework to create the life you want.
So the Transformational course gives you the steps and content. The membership gives you guidance and hand-holding to make it work for your unique child.
7 Reasons Why
The Strategies You Tried Haven’t Worked
(Hint: it’s not your fault or your child’s fault)
So many books, podcasts, and programs are AMAZING.
But if you have an out-of-the-box kid, the material out there is incomplete.
They give you pieces of the puzzle, not the full thing.
Here are 7 reasons why the courses, books, Pinterest tools and zillion other things you’ve tried haven’t worked…
...PLUS, what Next Step does differently to ensure you get life-changing results no matter what.
7 Reasons Why
The Strategies You Tried Haven’t Worked
(Hint: it’s not your fault or your child’s fault)
So many books, podcasts, and programs are AMAZING.
But if you have an out-of-the-box kid, the material out there is incomplete.
They give you pieces of the puzzle, not the full thing.
Here are 7 reasons why the courses, books, Pinterest tools and zillion other things you’ve tried haven’t worked…
...PLUS, what Next Step does differently to ensure you get life-changing results no matter what.
Stories From Next Step Members...
Below are stories from three moms who went through our 90-day transformation program.
Warning: these videos may make you cry…
“ALMOST EXPELLED FOR AGGRESSIVE OUTBURSTS”
Jennifer’s son had been suspended from kindergarten so many times he was on the verge of being EXPELLED... and it’s not like it stopped at home. The defiant screaming fits and violent aggressive outbursts felt like they stretched across days.
Now, the defiance, aggression and meltdowns have almost gone away completely. Jennifer is no longer afraid of getting calls from school. And she and her son can play games, have dance parties in the living room, and snuggle together.
“EVERYTHING WAS A ONE BIG ARGUMENT...”
Tamara and her daughter Hannah fought over everything. Their biggest struggle was any kind of routine, whether it be routines for schoolwork, morning routines, or bedtime routines. Tamara felt like she spent all day yelling.
Tamara discovered what was behind the arguments and Hanna’s resistance. Now, they have routines for mornings, homework, and nighttime. They’ve gone from arguing all day to almost never. Their relationship is stronger and Tamara has more time for herself.
"DOCTORS SAID HER SON WOULD NEVER COMMUNICATE…"
Meet Kaylene, an autistic mom of 8. Doctors told her that her autistic son would never communicate, manage his emotions, or live on his own.
On top of that, he had extremely aggressive meltdowns. He even tried to head-butt his baby sister. Kaylene realized she couldn’t keep her family safe...
But now he’s able to communicate. The meltdowns and aggressive behaviors went from daily to almost never.
Plus 3 FREE Bonuses
Join Calm the Chaos Next Step Membership Today, and you’ll get these bonuses (valued at $1,320) for free!
They include:
Bonus #1: Free Access to The Huddle ($324 Value)
When you join Calm the Chaos Next Step, you get access to the Huddle for FREE!
This includes:
- 10 Ready-to-Use In-The-Moment Plans to handle different types of meltdowns (know what to do and say when your child gets violent, runs away, hits their sibling and more)
- The Handle Challenging Behaviors Playbook -- video training, scripts, and step-by-step guides to handle everything from meltdowns to school refusal to picky eating and more
- Your Emergency Plan to keep you and your family safe when meltdowns get dangerous
- Behavior Response Vault -- 65+ videos on how to handle everything from electronic battles to transitions to bedtime struggles and more
- Plus a ton more
You get access to all this for as long as you continue to be a member of NextStep.
Bonus #2: No Time… No Problem Bundle ($497 value)
These are the same time-saving strategies I used to build a 7-figure business while homeschooling three kids and rushing off to therapy appointments, ballet classes, and a million other things.
They can save you an hour a day or more at least. So you can escape overwhelm and get your mojo back.
Bonus #3: Survive the Storm Masterclass ($499 value)
If you’re drowning trying to do ALL THE THINGS, this is for you.
This 5-part Masterclass will help you go from overwhelmed and lost to calm and in-control.
You’ll learn how to stop yourself from spiraling into negativity using the Freakout Timer (our students LOVE this.)
Plus, how to get you and your family to thrive even when you’re surrounded by chaos. You’ll even get the Emergency Survival Plan to keep your family safe in an emergency.
Bonus #4: 90-Day Planning Session ($500 value)
This Tuesday, we are going to host a special 90-Day Planning Session for all our new NextStep members.
We’ll help you set your intention and define clear goals and an action plan so you will know exactly where you are going and when you get there.
We’ll also help you make a plan for those things that usually trip you up so that you can keep making progress knowing that this time, you won't fall off or get derailed.
It will be this Tuesday, September 20th at 11AM CST (12pm EST, 9am PST). If you miss it you’ll get the replay
This session would normally costs $500.
But you’ll get it for FREE if you sign up before the end of day Monday.
Bonus #5: Jumpstart Coaching Call ($200 value)
If you get easily overwhelmed and don't know where to start, start here!
Getting Started in a new program and new community can feel overwhelming.
And we know that the worst thing that can happen, is you never get started due to overwhelm.
That's why, we are offering this Jumpstart Coaching Call with our coaches so they can show you where everything is, help you discover where you are on the Roadmap and how to find your tiny next step.
Bonus #6: Panic Button ($200 value)
TODAY ONLY
The Panic Button is a private line to me and my team.
It’s a special number you can text when things get bad. Me or someone on my team will see the message and personally call you within 24 hours to help.
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If your child is throwing a tantrum, punching, kicking, or screaming for hours on end and nothing you do helps, text us.
We’ll hop on a call and work through the problem together.
By the end, you’ll feel more confident and in control. And you’ll know exactly what to do to start to turn your situation around.
Everyone who joins today gets one Panic Button call.
Recap of Everything You Get
Calm the Chaos Transformation Program ($999 value) NextStep Membership ($1,164 value) Bonus #1: Access to The Huddle ($324 value) Bonus #2: No time, No problem ($497 value) Bonus #3: Survive the Storm Masterclass ($499 value)
Total value: $3,483
You save 97% today!
Join for less than $3/day
(Limited-Time Offer)
The total value of everything you get is $3,483.
But you won’t have to invest anything near that.
You won’t even have to invest $1,742 -- which is half that.
You can get started with NextStep, the Calm the Chaos Transformation Program, and all the bonuses, for just $97/month.
That’s less than $3/day.
And if you sign up for a full year, you’ll get 2 months FREE!
JOIN MONTHLY
- Access to The Calm the Chaos 3.0 Transformational Course
- Membership in NextStep Coaching
- Free access to The Huddle
- No Time, No Problem
- Survive The Storm Masterclass
2 FREE months of membership in NextStep (Save $194)Lifetime access to Calm the Chaos 3.0 Transformational course
(You will only gain access to this and everything else for as long as you’re a member)FREE Private 1:1 Coaching Call ($500 value)
COMMIT FOR A YEAR
- Access to The Calm the Chaos 3.0 Transformational Course
- Membership in NextStep Coaching
- Free access to The Huddle
- No Time, No Problem
- Survive The Storm Masterclass
- 2 FREE months of membership in NextStep (Save $194)
- Lifetime access to Calm the Chaos 3.0 Transformational course.
(Commit for a year and get these trainings for life) - FREE Private 1:1 Coaching Call ($500 value)
JOIN MONTHLY
- Access to The Calm the Chaos 3.0 Transformational Course
- Membership in NextStep Coaching
- Free access to The Huddle
- No Time, No Problem
- Survive The Storm Masterclass
2 FREE months of membership in NextStep (Save $194)Lifetime access to Calm the Chaos 3.0 Transformational course
(You will only gain access to this and everything else for as long as you’re a member)FREE Private 1:1 Coaching Call ($500 value)
COMMIT FOR A YEAR
- Access to The Calm the Chaos 3.0 Transformational Course
- Membership in NextStep Coaching
- Free access to The Huddle
- No Time, No Problem
- Survive The Storm Masterclass
- 2 FREE months of membership in NextStep (Save $194)
- Lifetime access to Calm the Chaos 3.0 Transformational course.
(Commit for a year and get these trainings for life) - FREE Private 1:1 Coaching Call ($500 value)
Comes with Our 30-Day “Prove Us Wrong” Guarantee
When you join Next Step, you get a full 30 days to try it out.
Watch the videos, use the guides, follow the steps...
You’ll likely see results within that first week. Less meltdowns, backtalk, defiance, aggression…
If you aren’t seeing major results by then, we insist you email us at help@calmthechaosframework.com and we’ll give you a full refund.
I do this because I’ve seen it work for so many people that I know it can work for you.
You have nothing to lose.
The bottom line is that I want to see you successful. And I want to see you have the success that we've had in our family.
If you have any questions or concerns about the course, call or email us. We're happy to help!
What Experts Say...
Got Questions? We Got Answers!
Yep!
If you have any questions, give us a call at (888) 532-5809. One of our team members will listen to your situation and answer any questions. So you can decide whether or not this is right for you.
Yes! The Calm the Chaos Transformation Program is combined with your NextStep membership. You will continue to have access to this program for as long as you are a member inside NextStep.
The coaching calls for Next Step and the 90-Day Transformation Program will be Thursdays at 3PM CT (4ET, 1PT.)
They will all be recorded in case you miss any.
If your kid “isn’t that bad,” great! That means you’ll get results even faster.
We’ve had hundreds of parents and teachers use this for simple problems like backtalk, getting their child to follow directions, and getting their child to do chores or stick to routines.
It works wonders for simple, everyday behavior. And the framework brings you and your family closer together.
As your child gets older, new problems may arise. If that happens, you’ll love having this framework already in place. Because it will let you handle those issues fast and without drama.
This framework was built for you.
I created Next Step to help the most difficult, aggressive kids. Including my own son who had epic meltdowns 3-5 times a day -- but now goes months without a single problem.
It’s helped children as young as 3 go from multiple violent outbursts every day to going weeks without a single incident. Including children gifted with ADHD, SPD, autism and a thousand other things.
Just check out some of the stories above, and you’ll see this works wonders for super aggressive kiddos.
A lot of the advice out there only gives you cookie-cutter solutions. They don’t address the root cause of your child’s problem. And they don’t take your child’s specific triggers, needs, and unique preferences into account.
Next Step is different.
It shows you how to uncover the root cause of your child’s behavior. And how to quickly solve this problem in a way that not only works for you and your unique child but is something you’re both excited to use.
And we do it through a step-by-step system. You’re not just going to learn random tactics. You see how it all fits together.
If you choose the monthly option you can cancel anytime and you won’t be billed again (but if you cancel and want to rejoin, you’ll have to pay the new price...which will definitely be higher!)
It’s like Netflix. You invest $97 each month for as long as you want access to our coaches, accountability pods, community and more.
If you decide it’s not for you, no problem. You can email us at help@calmthechaosframework.com and we’ll cancel your membership.
Nope! Not for as long as you're a member.
We will likely double the cost of membership soon. But if you join today, you’ll be locked in at the current rate for as long as you’re a member. So you’ll pay much less than those who join after you.
We are closing the doors to the Next Step Membership soon. And we don’t know when we’ll open them again.
If you’re on the fence, join for a month and see if it’s for you. That way you can claim all the bonuses as they may not be available next time.
The Huddle is our do-it-yourself program that shows you how to handle challenging behavior in the moment.
You learn what to do and say so you can stay calm and get the meltdowns, fights, tantrums, outbursts and other issues to pass quickly.
NextStep is more done-with-you. Our coaches are there to give you the subtle tweaks that can make a massive difference when you use our framework and plans with your kids.
NextStep also focuses on ahead-of-the-moment plans. These are all about stopping the meltdowns, tantrums, outbursts, fights, etc. BEFORE they even start. So you don’t have to run around putting out fires constantly.
It’s like this: Imagine you’re cooking dinner. The Huddle is like cooking while following along with a recipe. NextStep is like having a professional chef in the kitchen with you. They help you cook and show what tweaks you can make to ensure your family loves it.
What students are saying
“I’m more confident in myself as a darn good mom and can advocate for my son.”
Amanda, Calm the Chaos graduate
“Life is much calmer and happier…my son has started to self-regulate …”
Shanda, Calm the Chaos graduate
“The therapist said the Calm the Chaos framework worked so well my daughter didn’t need therapy anymore!”
Cassie, Calm the Chaos graduate
“I’m able to have date nights with my husband again. A year ago that would have caused a complete anxiety attack for my daughter.”
Amy, Calm the Chaos graduate
“We’re able to laugh at tough situations now. Because we know how to get through it faster with less pain.”
Gayle, Calm the Chaos graduate
“Sets me up for greater success in all areas… not just kids but with my partner, at work, everywhere!”
“First perfect day at school all year...”
“Smooth and successful morning routine…”
“Calm the Chaos not only helped me be a better parent, it helped me discover myself, my dreams, my strengths so I can tackle anything that comes our way, including a global pandemic.”
Kylie, Calm the Chaos graduate
“We made more progress in 12 weeks than if we had spent months in Applied Behavior Analysis therapy.”
Shanda, Calm the Chaos graduate
The school called, and for the first time, it was good news...
“The BEST community and the BEST people…”
“I’m able to work through meltdowns without losing it…”
Works for 22-month-old son
“My kids are getting along so well!
Therapist says she’s a more skillful parent
“Given me more than the therapist my son has been seeing”
“I’m calmer and less triggered…”
“Finished our first full week of school and I’m really happy…”
“Went to the children’s museum… no meltdowns like in the past”
“Made it through distance learning without a fight”
“Normally there would be epic battles… but things were calm and in-control”
“I have a framework that works for all my kids”
“My son’s meltdowns have decreased dramatically”
Jennifer, Calm the Chaos graduate
Her boy used to get frustrated so fast… now he comes and talks to her instead
“He stopped screaming and used his words”
