"It was like a hurricane, all of us in the mix. I read all the books and found the answers, but it still wasn't turning into being an effective parent."
sibling fighting, Parental anxiety, mom guilt
These are not toys, they’re weapons, at least in our house. That's what they are. Wow. That's what they were six months ago. So I've always considered myself fairly calm and reasonable person. But when it came to parenting or the story, I really struggled big time. So my experience with the CTC is nearly six months. My experience of being a parent has been about nine years of searching for the answers of how to help my children grow up to be happy and whole. I read all the books and found the answers, but it still wasn't turning into being an effective parent. Not the parent that I wanted to be. And then some kind of miracle happened. And I just happened to notice Dayna on a Facebook feed and she was giving a live talk. And she was saying, are the things that I believe to be true actually true? She was saying it was possible to parent and have a happy family. And it was an instant connection. I just knew that what she was saying was what I needed to be doing. And I just typed in where have you been all my life, when the answer was “I've been doing it, I've done the ground work so that I can bring the answers to you”. Anyway, I just completely totally trusted what she had to offer and signed up for CTC. What have I learned? I've learned to take a step back and to see the situation for what it is. I've learnt that we're all doing our best. I knew that, but I still didn't know why the struggles were happening. Now. I know we're doing our best and I understand why the struggles are happening. I can maintain connection with my children, even when we're having stress. Of course, the struggles. Well, let's say we used to have about 80: 20, maybe even 95:5 hassled to harmony. It was like a hurricane, all of us in the mix. And now I would say it's more like 80% harmony and wisdom, the lava struggles. But the truth day before yesterday, these toys were used for an hour together. The children use their creativity and imagination and they had fun and there was turn taking. And I want that for you too. Okay.