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Who the Heck is Dayna Abraham?

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Hi, I’m Dayna Abraham, author of the bestselling books Superkids Activity Guide and Sensory Processing 101. I’m also the founder of the parenting blog Lemon Lime Adventures, which gets over 3 million visitors a year.

I spent over 13 years as a teacher. And for the past 5 years, I’ve helped over 200,000+ parents, teachers, therapists, and pediatricians get control of their child’s most difficult behaviors using the Calm the Chaos framework.

I didn't magically get here by chance. I spent the first 7 years of parenting feeling like an absolute failure despite my background in education. I read every book I could find, spent thousands on therapists and advocates and tried every calm-down tool on the planet. 

Nothing worked at first. And then I tried a radically "out of the box" approach and things started to change. 

Calm The Chaos Framework Stories

They Did It.
So Can you.

Moms share how they went from struggling to thriving with their kids

EVERYTHING WAS A CONSTANT BATTLE: ONE SMALL STEP CHANGED EVERYTHING...

Anna was sent to parenting course after parenting course and yet… nothing worked. Outbursts, defiant and oppositional behavior, ignoring, refusing to do what they asked at home… Everything was a constant battle. Her family was about to fall apart and break.

By just making a few small changes, her family started to take a turn for the better.

Now, she knows how to work with her son and EXACTLY what to do one step at a time…

SHE FOUND HER LIFELINE WHEN NOTHING FELT POSSIBLE...

Sonja read all the books, knew all the research and yet still felt she couldn’t help her son. She was fearful her son’s future included jail time, addiction or even suicide.

She decided to go all in and put all her attention on connection.

Now, for the first time ever, she wasn’t fearful of what the future looked like. She knows EXACTLY what to do one step at a time...

HER SON WENT FROM VIOLENT MELTDOWNS EVERY DAY TO CALMING HER DOWN... IN JUST A WEEK AND A HALF!

Jess was at rock bottom after pediatricians and teachers blamed her son's hitting, kicking, and meltdowns on her parenting skills.

She implemented a simple connection plan which gave her son the skills to actually calm HER down.

Now she spends her time playing Gaelic football with her children and is pursuing her own dreams, which she had forgotten about…

STRESSED. OVERWHELMED. EMOTIONALLY WRECKED. “WHAT AM I DOING WRONG?”

Amy’s relationship with her husband, her kids and herself was a wreck. She was overwhelmed with her never-ending lists of things to do. She couldn’t even leave the house without everything falling apart. She was stressed and stuck in paralysis. She would search aimlessly for hours only to be left with more overwhelm.

Once she stopped aiming for perfection, her days started getting better.

Now, there is still chaos but now, she has a plan…

Everyone said they couldn’t help. Until Amber reached out to Dayna.

Before the Calm The Chaos program, Amber was barely surviving. 

Her son Orion would be fine at school, but the moment he got home he would explode. it was more than she could bear. Covered in bites and bruises, looking for help everywhere she could, and hearing over and over again “we can’t help you” and “we’ve never seen this before.”

Hurt, scared, and alone, Amber felt like a total failure... She knew she needed to change something, and quick.

Then, on a late-night internet crawl, Amber found a five-minute clip of The Iceberg Theory, and started the process of turning her family life around.

DESPITE BEING A TEACHER, SHE COULDN’T HELP HER SON’S AFTERSCHOOL MELTDOWNS

Despite being an educator, Kaitlyn couldn’t help her son through his debilitating anxiety and after school meltdowns that would last over an hour. She was exhausted and felt completely isolated. At school her son was a rockstar but at home it was a different story and none of the “normal tools” worked.

She discovered that she could start to see her son’s behaviors like a penny and everything started to change.

And now, her son has replaced meltdowns with family huddles…

Her family went from broken and falling apart to working together to solve problems lovingly in less than 3 months...

Alice wasn’t sure where her family was headed, but she knew it wasn’t pretty. Her and her husband were barely talking and when they did…They couldn’t agree on anything. She was ready to give up. She took one last shot at a framework that focused on compassion and understanding.

Within three short months…She and her husband now work alongside each other as a team,
They spend time laughing and cooking together,

And best of all…Their family now spends time playing games together, cuddling on the coach, and talking out their struggles with compassion and understanding.

She went from being afraid to take a shower to being able to leave her kids at home alone together

When both parents work full-time, it’s important to be able to leave your kids alone every now and then. But Emily wasn’t even confident she could take a shower without a fight breaking out in her living room. 

They’d been through counseling for the entire family—individually, together, and in all kinds of other configurations. Nothing seemed to help. The aggressive, violent outbursts were just getting worse and worse. 

Over the course of the CTC program, Emily discovered that not only could she help her kids foster a great relationship with each other, but she could develop a better relationship with herself, too.

Her family went from hitting, kicking, scratching, and screaming matches to living room dance parties and quiet snuggles on the couch.

A year ago, Jennifer was being called into school almost on a daily basis. Her son had been suspended from kindergarten so many times he was on the verge of being EXPELLED... and it’s not like it stopped at home. The defiant screaming fits felt like they stretched across days. The aggressive kicking, hitting, and scratching made it hard to even get close to him.

His aggressive and defiant behaviors were causing so much stress it was overflowing into every part of Jennifer’s life.

Now they can play games, have pop-up dance parties in the living room, or just snuggle, as a family.

She found a way to get her “crazy train” back on track.

Jeanine felt completely hopeless

She had tried being patient. She had tried being positive. But nothing was working. She was really struggling with her anxiety and depression, desperate for something … anything that would make a difference in her family’s life.

"In kindergarten, we had 24 calls to come get him."

Jennifer Painter
Aggressive meltdowns, School Struggles

"I have felt inept to be his mother, completely incapable of how to parent him."

Theresa Martinez
Aggressive Meltdowns, Overwhelm, Mom Guilt

"Nobody talked about what happens when you can't keep your kids safe."

Rachel Le
Tried Everything, Aggressive Meltdowns, Overwhelm, Spouse Not On Board

"I've developed a little bit of a thick shell when sharing things but this community is phenomenal."

Mel Sgoi
Aggressive Meltdown, Parental Anxiety

"You deserve to be as in love with your family as you want to be."

Alison Cossette
Overwhelmed, Spouse Not on Board

"I felt like I lost the baby boy that I was so connected to."

Karla Slotboom
Single Mom, Aggressive Meltdowns

"I had no idea that he was retaining anything that I was trying to teach him."

Jessica Kuykendall
Separation Anxiety

"I own my story, I can control it and I can tell it the way I want to."

Amy Gallagher
Aggressive Meltdowns, Parental Anxiety

"I felt like I was drowning."

Kerri Isaacs
Overwhelm, Parental Anxiety

"My chaos is in my environment and in my head."

Leanna Carrillo
No time/No energy, Mindset Shift

"I had built up a lot of walls that prevented real communication within our family."

Theresa Gilbert
Parental Anxiety, Communication

"Now it is that good kind of chaos that comes of four kids growing up together."

April Johnson
Tried Everything, Mindset Shift

"There've been so many videos that make me cry with relief that someone understands."

Dani Conway
Tried Everything, Mom Guilt,  Mindset Shift

"WE QUIT! I made the phone call to our therapists that have been helping us for three years to no avail."

Mandi Hauer
Tried Everything, Long Meltdowns

"This will affect the parenting of my grandchildren and the generations to come."

Carol Quoi
School Struggles, Routines

"They made him feel like there was something wrong with him and even worse, I started to believe them."

Christine Kreiẞl
School Struggles, Aggressive Meltdowns, School Not On Board, Mom Guilt

" It wasn't supposed to be like this, right? What's wrong with my child? Why am I failing?"

Katherine Thorn
Aggressive Meltdowns, Tried Everything, Long Meltdowns

"It’s really all about being able to communicate as a family and having huddles."

Amanda Warren
Aggressive Meltdowns, Parental Anxiety, Sibling Fighting, Homeschool

"Without CTC, I'm pretty sure our family would be in a raging cat five hurricane."

Janna Pyle
Homeschool, Mindset Shift

"How can I have time for myself and be the mom I really wanted to be?"

Kylie Bartolo Cassar
Large Family, Overwhelm, Mindset Shift, I am a Professional Myself

"You can’t put a price on what you learn in Calm the Chaos. It's helped me change as a person and as a parent."

Holly Ferguson
Mindset Shift, No Time/No Energy

"Anytime I didn’t know what to do I would just hug him. It was what he needed and what I needed too."

Angela Niedermyer
Single Mom, Mindset Shift

"We could really come together and be captains of the same ship. So professionally I've used this and I've loved it."

Rebekka Wallace Roy
Mindset Shift, I am a professional myself

"It’s simple, but not easy. I think if it was easy, you would just do it on your own."

Marta Lacka
Tried Everything, Aggressive Meltdowns, I am a professional myself

"I felt like I was alone in this situation, embarrassed that at this point in my life, I needed advice on how to raise kids."

Diane Unger
Mom Guilt, Mindset Shift

"It takes a trustworthy guide and it takes involvement with a supportive community. And I found both of those here."

Georgia Bowen Buchert
Parental Anxiety, Mindset Shift

"I had to change and learn how to react calmly and not attack."

Dolana Jonte
Mom Guilt, I Tried Everything, Mindset Shift

"The part of CTC that I disliked in the beginning is what has saved me."

Cecilia Wie
Parental Anxiety, Mindset Shift

"Mommy, I just took a deep breath so that I can be kind, maybe you could too so that you can calm down too."

Angie Callister
Aggressive Meltdowns

"Feeling like we're not alone, that we aren't the unique case, the outlier that no one will ever figure out how to deal with - that was a huge deal for us."

Melissa and Daniel Haight

Mom and Daughter Turn Their Fighting Into Harmony and Teamwork

Tamara & Hannah

"It felt like I was in some sound proof box. My kids just would not listen to me."

Cassandra House-Hanowell
Overwhelm, Long Meltdowns

"We understand our children better, and they feel more comfortable being themselves and exploring the world around them."

Theresa Gilbert

A Concussion Wiped Out Her Patience With Her Kids, But This Mom Found Ultimate Support With a Like-Minded Community

Rebekka Wallace Roy

Foster Mom Goes from "World War 3" to Problem-Solving Connected Family

Stephanie Linde

Constant School Calls to Calm and Supported for Life

Carol Quoi

This Mom of 9’s New Foster Kids Challenged Everything She Knew About Parenting - So She Worked Through The Struggles to a Much Calmer Family

Kim Skabelund

She Was on the Brink of Giving up, But Found Big Results and Changed Her Story

Danielle Rossi

Homeschooling Mom of 4 Goes From Constant Chaos to Hope & Empowerment

Christy Lewno Blair

"Monkey Brain" & Overwhelm to Calm and Connected

Kylie Bartolo Cassar

From Yelling 80% of the Time to Remaining Calm 80% of the Time

Holly Ferguson

Mom of 3 goes from Emotionally Exhausted to Supported and Understood

Kimberly Olsen

She Challenged Her Old Parenting Beliefs and Found Her Whole Life Dramatically Improved

Peggy Gwyn

She Found Her Parenting Confidence After Not Socializing For Fear of Meltdowns

Jessica Ryals

"It was like a hurricane, all of us in the mix. I read all the books and found the answers, but it still wasn't turning into being an effective parent."

Corinne Clements-Scurr
Sibling Fighting, Parental Anxiety, Mom Guilt

Angry, Desperate Mom of Boys Finally Finds Solutions to Build Family Harmony

Galikali Elanor Rooney

"I didn't listen to them. I thought I was listening. I wasn't."

Christine Ewin
Aggressive Meltdowns, Overwhelm, Parental Anxiety

Adoptive Mom Felt Alone, Until She Found Her Lifeline

Vicki Tacoma

She Battled School Refusal, Meltdowns, and Staying Home to Successful Outings and Even an Upcoming Vacation

Katie Walz

"He was able to empower me to help solve the problem at school."

Christine Meske
Aggressive Meltdowns, School Struggles

Total 180 From Ready to Give up on Parenting to Enjoying Being With Her Kids

Amanda Warren

"I didn't know how best to parent her and not take that away from her because that's who she is."

Ellon Dougan
Single Mom, Aggressive Meltdowns, Mindset Shift

Alone and Not Finding Answers Anywhere Else, Mom of 4 Found a New Way of Life in CTC

Evelyne Carbonneau

Single Adoptive Mom Couldn’t Find Lasting Results Until The Huge Mindset Shift She Got From CTC

Shaunda Efaw

"CTC has meant a huge amount of progress for me and my kids. My husband said, you know, it works, and I just need to get on board and follow."

Jenny Binsfeld

Mom’s Leap of Faith Gives Her the Supportive Community That Helps Her Move Forward

Georgia Buchert

Feeling Like a Failure After Trying Everything, This Adoptive Mom Discovered How to Help the Scary, Destructive Behaviors

Amy Silverthorn

She Was Ready to Walk Away, But Turned Her Chaotic Family Life Around

Justeen Pierce

By Working at Her Own Pace She Saw Big Positive Changes Through Embracing the Small Steps

Rachel Le

They Only Used to Communicate by Arguing. Now, They're a Loving Team that does Everything Together

Tamara

Karen Suttie

An Older First-Time Mom Starts to See Immediate Results With Her Defiant, Aggressive Son

Amy Gallagher

Amanda Fry

HER SON WENT FROM VIOLENT MELTDOWNS EVERY DAY TO CALMING HER DOWN... IN JUST A WEEK AND A HALF!

Jess Flynn

EVERYONE SAID THEY COULDN’T HELP. UNTIL AMBER REACHED OUT TO DAYNA.

Amber

STRESSED. OVERWHELMED. EMOTIONALLY WRECKED. “WHAT AM I DOING WRONG?” OR FROM EMOTIONAL WRECK TO IN CONTROL & CONNECTED

Amy

HER SON WENT FROM VIOLENT MELTDOWNS EVERY DAY TO CALMING HER DOWN... IN JUST A WEEK AND A HALF!

Kaylene

DESPITE BEING A TEACHER, SHE COULDN’T HELP HER SON’S AFTERSCHOOL MELTDOWNS

Kaitlyn

HER FAMILY WENT FROM BROKEN AND FALLING APART TO WORKING TOGETHER TO SOLVE PROBLEMS LOVINGLY IN LESS THAN 3 MONTHS...

Alice

SHE WENT FROM BEING AFRAID TO TAKE A SHOWER TO BEING ABLE TO LEAVE HER KIDS AT HOME ALONE TOGETHER

Emily

HER FAMILY WENT FROM HITTING, KICKING, SCRATCHING, AND SCREAMING MATCHES TO LIVING ROOM DANCE PARTIES AND QUIET SNUGGLES ON THE COUCH.

Jennifer

She found a way to get her “crazy train” back on track.

Jeanine Lebsack

"CTC has helped me see the small moments of peace, joy, love, and forward movement, even among the storms."

Steph C.